We all need goals in our life to keep forging ahead. One of our contributors, Monica, started the Whole Body Whole Mind Challenge presented by 40 Aprons, a real foods, often Whole30 or paleo blog written by our Editor-In-Chief, Cheryl Malik. Monica found it at a critical time in her life to make some positive changes and embrace total wellness. She graciously shared her start of the challenge journal entry with us.
July 1, 2017
What will my breasts even look like without nursing pads?
In 2 weeks I’ll be celebrating my 5-year anniversary (whoop whoop), so I find myself at a natural self-checkpoint of expectations versus reality. The rose-colored glasses seem a bit foggy lately, maybe even due for a new prescription. As I write this, I’m sitting with cabbage leaves in my dingy bra, attempting to wean from 15 months of breastfeeding.
What will my breasts even look like without nursing pads? The anxieties around this and any number of day-to-day life activities or happenings circle in my head.
In this reflection though, there are two things I know for sure: I feel frumpy, and I’m not as healthy as I planned.
I can’t even remember the last time I wore heels. Before becoming a stay at home mom, I wore them daily. It’s not a big deal, but I loved my routine of hair and makeup. Currently, t-shirts, leggings, and an afro puff are my gold standard. THIS JUST ISN’T ME! I need to get back to myself by first wrangling my breasts back from my child, though I’m truly glad for what they’ve provided.
I’ve forgotten about Me somewhere between the playdates, their schedules, my nursing school exams, and just loving my family.
After that, I just need some “umph” back. Umph, you know… when sassy, sexy, and confident all collide magically. However, I need that umph to merge with productivity and health because that #momlife is rough sometimes, and we’ve all got stuff we’ve gotta do.
I’ve forgotten about Me somewhere between the playdates, their schedules, my nursing school exams, and just loving my family. After 5 years of marriage, I thought I’d be less “hot mess mom” and more Rihanna-ish. I’m younger than her for goodness sake; a girl can dream!
Back to reality, though: school starts again in August, and if I don’t get it together this month and start some positive changes, it won’t happen for a while.
Nursing school is an entire beast of its own. Late nights, stress, and deadlines takeover my life. I tend to put my husband on the back burner so I can to capitalize on my downtime. Translation: increase the sexy time and make more memories now because without those changes, our relationship will suffer.
So I started making some goals. And as I started writing them down, I came across the Whole Body Whole Mind Total Wellness Challenge in a local online mom’s group. It felt like the heavens opened up and smiled upon me. Perfect timing!
Not only does this challenge help me put my specific goals into words, it will help me to quantify my action plan. I don’t just want to lose these pounds, I want to adapt a healthy way of eating to be an example to my daughter. I don’t just want to be present with my husband, I want to foster our team (whoop whoop for long-lasting love). I don’t just want to run a 10k this year, I want to feel more fit and strong. I need to show others my progress (or lack thereof) for my own accountability, so the group that comes with this challenge is key.
By end of the month I’ll have built sustainable habits and reached my goals.
Over the next month, here are my goals quantified:
- Clean eating, more veggies and protein. 6 days a week.
- Working out by running or weight training. 5 times a week at least 45 minutes each time.
- Mindfully commit to a gratitude self-check and thank God. Daily for at least 5 minutes.
- Improve my relationship with my husband by putting away my phone after 8:30pm daily, showing more blatant affection, and communicating appreciation with positive affirmations 4 times a week. Also, I’ve planned a date night each Friday for this month.
The way the challenge works, I start small and work up to my total goal: the first week I don’t have to eat clean all 6 days or work out all 5 days. I start with 1/4 of my goal the first week and add a quarter each week thereafter, so that by end of the month I’ll have built sustainable habits and reached my goals. In doing this thing, celebrating our 5 year anniversary feels like a turning point for my whole life. An opportunity to embrace self care and get those expectations and reality on the same page…
and to share it with you, of course.